Negative emotions sap your energy and undermine your effectiveness. In the negative emotional state, you find the lack of desire to do anything. The mind is filled with thoughts of fear, doubts and insecurities. Your body experiences fatigue, tightness and muscle tension. Notice that your negative emotions arise when you respond to something, attach a meaning to it and picture it in your mind. You add power to it by using words to label and describe the situation or emotion.

You will then experience the sensation and respond accordingly, as you always, have unconsciously. It takes a decision to change anything. Once you decide that you no longer want to allow your negative emotions to control your life, you will take action to manage them when the first hint appears. You should condition yourself to become aware of your emotions and the stimulus that trigger them. When you are aware, you are able to look at it squarely.

Train your mind to “catch” yourself getting into an emotional state. It takes conscious awareness to question your limiting feelings and state of mind. Questioning yourself is a way to dehypnotize your way of getting into an automatic state. Question your reasons, assumptions and understandings in order to change the intensity and meaning you attach to your emotions. When you focus on hurtful feeling, fear and all other negative state of emotions, you will enlarge them.

Moving your body through physical activity changes your internal state of mind. When there is a lot of stress in your life, everything seems against you. De-stress yourself at intervals during your waking hours by taking time to relax and exercise breathing techniques. A calm and peaceful mind is able to produce positive emotions and a better outlook about life and events. Try to remind yourself that the cause of your anger, hurt and fear are not due to external situations or people.